How to satisfy my boyfriend when all he wants is s*x?

me and my boyfriend get along great, and we really love each other. he’s desperate for s3x, and I’m not. I tell him I dont want to have it for a long time, but he keeps begging. it’s really bad and annoying, he claims he needs it and is desperate. I’ve given him head and stuff, but hes not satisfied with that. what can I do?

Answer #1

Very simply tell him you’re saving it for marriage. If he can’t accept that than he’s not really in love with you. Most guys at 17-18 don’t know what love is anyway. They’re in heat. Believe me, been there, done that! (I’m assuming he’s about your age)

Answer #2

Heres some info i use for girls in your situation>

Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into sx. Sx is a huge deal, no matter what some people say.

For guys see s*x as totally physical and don’t get their emotions involved. Your BF isn’t treating you like a person. You’re not just “the girlfriend” - you are your own person, with your own feelings and needs and comfort zone.

You should save an intimate physical connection for a guy who proves by his actions over a LONG time - not just a couple of months - that he truly loves you and respects your feelings and wants to be together with you for the long-term.

How will you know if your BF loves you this way? You will see it in many ways… most importantly, that he will be patient with you setting a slow pace for sxual involvement. Generally, a boy who will care for you after sx is also a guy who will wait a long time for s*x without pressuring you. A guy who loves you will treat you with respect, listen to your feelings, put you first in his life, be proud of including you in activities with his friends and family, cheer you up when you are down, and show his love in many other such ways.

If your BF is in a hurry for s*x, that is a sign that he won’t treat you respectfully afterward. You need to inform him sweetly, but firmly, that you will not be rushed into doing anything so major. Here are some tips on how you could do that:

Take a deep breath and say these words: “No, I don’t want to have s*x”.

If the question comes up while you are kissing or fooling around, stop what you are doing. Back off, take a breath, even stand up if necessary. Then say, “I do not want to have s*x now.”

Don’t let him talk you out of what you know is right. If you make out with someone, no matter how far you go, it does NOT mean that you have to go all the way.

Don’t be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sx. Choosing not to have sx is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want!

Tell him how you feel about him, and be honest. If you don’t feel close enough to him yet, say so. If you really love him but aren’t interested in s*x right now, say so.

Tell him the depth of your commitment to keeping yourself innocent for now. If you don’t plan on having s*x until you are married, say so. If you simply know you are not ready right this moment, then say so.

If he tells you, “If you loved me you’d do it”, come back at him with, “If you loved me you’d wait”. S*x is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.

Keep in mind that if it was meant to be with you and this guy, it was meant to be right for BOTH of you, not only for one of you.

Remember, having sx is a big deal and not having sx is perfectly normal. Despite what you may have heard, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.

Just because you are his gf doesnt mean you have to have s*x with him, especially when it seems like thats all he wants from you!

Answer #3

u shouldnt give him anything. if he loves u then he can wait for it. xD

Answer #4

Best desision

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