Arranged Marriage versus true love

Think of it this way: You’ve reached a point in your life where this situation has become unbearable to you. It is making you sick and you need to find a solution.

The only solution in the long run is to make a choice. A very hard choice but one that will determine how you will live your life. Only you can decide what is the best solution for you and since this is an important choice you must take the time to really think about it.

If you decide to marry out of love, you certainly won’t be the first nor the last Indian woman (or man) to do this. Your parents may react in all type of ways (they could even be happy!) and this is something that you will have to accept (especially if they are angry).

On the other hand, a lot of people are happy in arranged marriages but your heart has to be wanting to open up to a stranger. Either way, only time will tell if the bond between is strong enough.

You said that your currently aren’t ready to settle down with your boyfriend which means that not only are you not ready to marry the man you love but you aren’t ready for any type of marriage right now!

The stress seems to come from your parents love (since they wish you happiness, a family, a partner) but you need to tell them to stop pressuring you and that you want to wait a bit more before marrying. This will give you the time to find out if your boyfriend is serious about marriage and if you think that this relationship is worth the difficulties it may bring.

As for being selfish…a selfish person wouldn’t even ask that question because they wouldn’t care. You care and when you care about how others feel, you are never selfish.

Best of luck and don’t give up! It will all work itself out in the long run. Be patient :-)