Am I in love with my married friend?

I have a male friend who I absolutely adore and I am not sure if I am falling in love or lust, but either way I am in trouble because he is married. What do I do? We have been friends for years and I don’t want to lose that

Answer #1

I understand completely! I am in the same situation. I can tell you that part of the reason I feel so strongly is that he is completely loyal to his wife… if he were to cheat on her I’m sure it would change the way I view him. I often wonder if it is love or lust as well (can you love someone without knowing all the shitty day to day things about them?) In any event I have made a conscience decision not to let it go beyond flirting not just because it is the right thing to do but because it is the only way we can remain friends. As sure as I am that he feels the same way for me I do not assume that I know how he feels for his wife. Remember how much you care for him and do not risk ruining a wonderful friendship…I know it is difficult but stay strong! I am wishing you the best.

Answer #2

You don’t want ANYTHING to do with ruining someone’s marriage. Its okay to have feelings for him, but it is NOT okay to act on them.

Now, if he ever gets divorced… feel free to jump his bones…

Answer #3

Nothing. He’s married, open your eyes. Don’t try to even interfere. Move on, look for someone else. Going on an affair is also no option. Don’t ruin your friendship. Cheating really affects relationships. Trust me, I’ve experienced when someone’s cheated.

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