Has television given people false hope of what a real relationship is like?

Indeed, I think it has. All we look for now is someone who has good looks, and we dont pay so much attention to what they’re really like. We look for someone to hook up w and who cares if things work out? If they dont, its an easy break-up or divorce. We no longer care about what happens in the long run, as long as we can have what we want now. And it makes me sad to see that :\

if ur relationship with ur gf is crappy, then its probably time to find a new one. TV is make believe, pretty all of it. But all fiction has some truth behind it. Have faith in love

his profile says “who has been married to a wonderful woman since Aug 1997”. he asking people opinion….

TY, yes I have been married since I was 20, and now we are over 13 years. LOL

My wife would probably not want me to have a relationship with my GF.

Funnily enough, I was watching ‘The Notebook’ with my boyfriend the other day. We were both dreamily watching it thinking that it’s us. He kept hinting how the couple resembled us. But then I thought in reality, are we that dreamy and is everything so perfect? Are we that loved up? I suppose it depends on your outlook on life and if you make things that are not.

Anyway, about your question, yes I do to some respect. On the other end of the spectum, there are a lot of television programs depicting couples in non-functioning relationships. What springs to mind is Eastenders. The majority of you probably won’t know what it is but it involves negative events such as drinking in the pub (as a means of socialising but every day), mu*ders, incidents of cheating and the like.

I do think (and hope) that most people are in touch of reality and realise that relationships are what you make of them and they’re all different.

I hope you mean ‘we’ in a very general sense.

I think there are always times in a relationship that match lot of movies, but is still nothing like the movies.

Well I know I have to work our relationship all the time, but if we both stopped trying we would drift apart, it takes two, not one person can be the glue.

Yep, very true.

T.V. gives me false hopes about everything, that’s why i turn it off. To much sadness and disapointment on there, especailly on the news.

Yes, I mean “we” in a very general sense :p

And yeah, Chris, youre absolutely right

No? We dont learn about relationships from the TV. Any less than people for millennia have learned about relationships by listening to fairy tales and stories… We learn about relationships the way people have always learned about relationships, by observation of our families and others close to us.

Yeah, I think it does in the sense of “Wow, look how happy and perfect their relationship is. Is that what real love is like? Do WE not have REAL love?” Of course it’s not true, and tv is just tv, but I think we all wonder if what we think is true everlasting love really is or if we might have it all wrong. I think if we had scripts and romantic background music to rely on, our relationships would seem more “ideal” and like what you see on tv…everything in movies is so contrived and the goal of romantic shows is to make you believe this “perfect couple” is perfect in every way so you, the viewer, believe it and are more effected by what happens in the movie/ tv show. Romances, like most things on tv, are exaggerated and made to look better than it really is.

Oh yes!!!!! I cannot tell you how different it is to me being in a relationship. I thought it was gonna be all fireworks and lovey dovey stuff…but oh no.

Well ty.

Yes, the media makes us forget that we are human and nobody is perfect.

YES..

no, relationships can relate to somethings on television i admit that, but as for reality, relationships are about improving and working as a team to make it work, they are what you make them, it works or it doesnt, you have to take the good with the bad

in serial dramas such as eastenders coronation street, it seems when they relationships have rough patches they jump into bed with somebody else, reality isnt like that, only if you have no morals, you work through the problems or call it a day

i do think that television can influence people to make some decisions though sometimes! sometimes good, sometimes bad

i can understand what your boyfriend means stella about that it resembles you 2, maybe he meant about you 2 being so close and natural not dreamy and perfect :P