Getting people to like you is quite easy. In a few simple, short steps you’ll be surprised what you can accomplish.
Here’s how to get started:
Sometimes we talk too much. Force yourself to listen the next time. Hear what the person is saying. And if they don’t want to talk, ask questions to make them draw themselves out more. Research has found that by listening effectively, you will get more information from others, you will increase others’ trust in you, you will reduce conflict, and you will get people motivated more.
Look into their eyes
Look into others eyes when you talk with them. By looking around and at other things, you show that you’re not serious about what the other person is saying.
Walk in their shoes
This is another way of showing empathy. Try to understand what they are going through. Listen as they explain their problem and nod your head to show you understand.
Read “How to Win Friends and Influence People”
This groundbreaking book by Dale Carnegie literally changed my life. Read it as many times as you can so the principles sink in.
You can’t change anyone
Remember, that you can’t change anyone else. Only yourself. Beware of trying to force your agenda on others.
Sometimes everything you do still means others will still hate you. Hate is irrational and comes from a place of the other person fearing (or envying) you for some reason.
If that’s the case, know that there is nothing you can do, except to try to let the other person know who you are and what you stand for.