Why do I feel like something is wrong with me?

Okay so I am naturally pretty quiet and shy I guess you can call it. Always have been. I honestly don’t like calling myself shy but anyways I feel like my shyness gets in the way of everything. I just went to a party today. There were people and kids my age that I didn’t know. I didn’t get up and dance at all. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to get up and dance all that much for obvious reasons. My mom says I should smile more but I honestly can’t smile all that much if I’m not really happy. I can’t fake a smile. My mom says that sometimes I look too uninterested and that sometimes I look pssed off and that guys would be intimidated by that. I don’t want to give people the wrong impression of me and I feel terrible when my mom says I look mad when I thought I was just making a blank face. When I’m bored I doze off and yes I probably will look uninterested and I know that’s a big problem of mine. I’m not surprised that no guy would ask me to dance if I look that pssed off. My mom said it looked like one guy was about to ask me to dance then decided not to. I honestly feel terrible and feel there is something seriously wrong with me. I feel like people assume that I’m one of those people that think they’re better than everyone else which is far from who I really am. Sometimes I wonder why God made me this way. I’m homeschooled and going to start at a public school by next year so I’m hopeful that maybe by then things will get better but at the same time I feel like I’ll never have a normal life. That I’ll never be truly happy. That I’ll never have a real social life. I only have one friend and I’m terribly lonely. My mom seems to not understand so it’s not like I can talk to her about it. Can someone please tell me why I’m like this and how I can fix it?

Answer #1

I dont think anything is wrong with you. I’ve always gotten”you looked mean” from people that have actually gotten to know me. I’ve been tom boyish but always have had a lot of friends. Just keep bein yourself and youll find someone who loves you for you. I dont think theres anything wrong with you your just unique.

Answer #2

It could be depression. I know it sounds strange, but you seem to be down all the time and negative. I don’t think something is particularly wrong with you either. I struggled with bad shyness at one stage in my life, but eventually outgrew it to some extent.

I suggest confiding in a friend or someone you can trust about how you feel and to get your emotions sorted out.

Answer #3

It just sounds like you haven’t come out of your shell yet. It takes time. The thing you just have to learn is that you’re not the only one who’s worried about looking stupid. Everybody’s worried about that. But is worrying about looking stupid worth missing out on something fun? If you’re just not that into dancing, then that’s one thing. You’ll just have to find something that you do enjoy doing and do it. The point is, don’t hold yourself back from doing something that you think will be fun just because you might be worried about what other people think. Everyone has their own life to live. Don’t let other people live it for you. =)

Answer #4

Yeah I used to be shy. and I KNOW it’s so hard to say that you’re shy because you don’t feal like you are. Just embrase your flaws! Don’t hide them. If you’re mom tells you that you look pissed off, make that a conversation topic with people. be like “I may look pissed off all the time but really I’m just making a blank face.” Be able to laugh at yourself. When you have awkward moments with people point them out, be like “this is so AAAwkward” or “you were like and I was like and it was like awkward.” If you make a mistake don’t be afraid to joke about it. Usually people who are shy are really uncordinated, it’s because we’re not confident enough to be able to make mistakes without getting embarrased. Shyness is like stagefright: if you imagine everyone in their underwear it’s okay. Remember that everyone around you is just like you, you’re not an alian and nobody is better than you. Hope it helps.

Answer #5

This was pretty much the story of my life in high school. I didn’t have many friends, I didn’t go to dances, I always wanted to be by myself. But around my junior year I became horribly depressed when I saw how distant and different I was than everyone else. (Plus that was the year all my classmates were doing nothing but drugs, which I didn’t want any part in, but that’s a different story.) I had a really hard time socializing with people but at first often looked at it like it was their fault, and wondered why they never talked to me.

I would suggest going to a psychiatrist. I have a mental condition called Asperger’s Syndrome which causes this. Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone.

Answer #6

My best friend is just like you and No there is nothing wrong with you.. everyone is different and everyone should respect that for example im the complete opposite of my best friend you can say that im less shy lets call it that… we became frieends because I approached her one day and at first she didnt say much you know but now we are like sisters!!! Im sure that many people will get the wrong impression of you because they’ll think that you think they are boring fo you but I get you, once you start going to public school you’ll see everything will be better and once people approach you they’ll get to see the real you!!! My advice is, if you can step out of your comfort zone just a little bit and u’ll see how better everything will be !!! Hope I Helped :) -xoxo-

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