My friend has an eating disorder, how to help?

My friend has an eating disorder. She is getting help but I am extreamly worried. The other day she fainted in school. I was crying so hard. I was scared that she was going to die. I need advice NOW. I’m not sure what advice I am looking for I just need help. I can’t even consontrate in school. HELP!

Answer #1

Dear irishgirly, I understand that you are scared for your friend but why are you making this about you? She is going through a terrible rough time so why make it worse by causing another problem for her…your focusing on yourself. If you really want to help you will make sure her parents know of her situation and trust that they will get the help for her. Eating disorders are a psychological problem which means that the only way for her to get help is to see a professional. This is not something she can do on her own, she may want to change but cannot. They themselves do not understand the problem, so are powerless to do anything about it. This is why it takes a professional. So please don’t make her worry about your inability to cope with HER problem. The best you can do is make sure the adults in her life know and are helping. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

Tell someone exactly what you just typed there. Your parents, a teacher, anyone. The fact that you want to do something means you’re the one to take action. TELL SOMEONE that she needs help, even use this same question you just typed out.

Answer #3

sue90 You may be trying to help but I am looking for advice for myself. Although I know that this is even worse for her it is extremly scary for me too. I am very worried about her. I was just trying to get advice because this is really scary for me. I am not trying to focus on myself, and it’s not like I am going to go to her saying all of this stuff to her, I was just seeing if people here knew anyways to help me.

Answer #4

Hi, Here are some facts about anorexia etc: http://www.anred.com/toc.html

Just bear in mind that one of the problems with an ED is that the person will often deny that they have a problem.

You cannot force them to change this self destructive behaviour unless they want to.

ED’s are not about losing weight they are about will power, control and the manifestation of much deeper rooted problems that need to be resolved.

You will have more first hand replies soon.

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