What is your opinion of the father who shot his daughter's laptop for posting a disrespectful post about her parents?

Do you think the method is effective and that she learned her lesson? Or do you think this will more likely drive the girl to be more rebellious?

Answer #1

As in shot it with a gun? That would be terrifying, I’m sure he got his point across, but that really isn’t the way I think things should be done. I think it might drive the girl to be a crazy parent, if that’s the kind of behaviour she’s raised with.

Answer #2

She shouldn’t have been being disrespectful, I don’t think it was too extreme as long as he didn’t physically abuse her or anything. If all she is going to do on the computer is post those sorts of things, when she’s luck enough to even have one, then she doesn’t deserve it.

Answer #3

Lucky* not luck, my bad.

Answer #4

I think she deserves it, its enough she has a laptop, most likely a phone (expensive phone) . And it was just because of chores, seriously, I complain about chores, but not to my friends, and i do the chore. LOL . but her father said she was spoiled, so in my opinion , she deserved it :0

Answer #5

If I was the girl, I’d be afraid…..Verrrry afraid!!!

Answer #6

I think he’s an awesome parent for putting his foot down. I see so many kids who disrespect their parents all day everyday and their parents just take it because they’re afraid of disciplining their kids for some strange reason. If I said anything like that to my mother, I would have gotten a big smack on the mouth. Kids these days need to realize how good they have it and how much their parents provide for them. I think he’s a good dad. The video was made for his daughter, her friends and her parents that saw the video, it wasn’t meant to go viral. But I’m kinda glad it did, because maybe some other parents will take a few pointers.

Answer #7

Rebellion is a normal stage in growing up; it is a step in the direction of becoming independent. Every teen is conflicted and loves and hates their parents and wants to be respected as an adult yet enjoy the lack of responsibility of youth. I’d say that the dad needs help because if he is so thin skinned to fly off the handle because his daughter vented on-line he lacks the patience and maturity to be a good parent. The dad should have had a heart-to-heart talk with his daughter rather than becoming just as adolescent as her trying to embarrass and humiliate her on-line. Any time a parent seeks revenge against their kids it is a sad day indeed. I hope their relationship isn’t irreversibly damaged by his rant.

Answer #8

I sure hope other parents don’t take that as advice. That’s a ridiculously immature punishment.

Answer #9

I think thats just going to make her want to be more rebellious :/

Answer #10

It seems a bit over the top but I don’t know the whole story, what did she say exactly?

Answer #11
Answer #12

I think its fantastic.

Answer #13

Well what she did was ridiculously immature. “Treat people how you wanna be treated. “

Answer #14

If you read the status I wrote about “Me and my sister vent to Eachother”, youll find out that I did something along the lines of this girl. Except it was in a text to my sister, had a ton of cusswords in it too. And yes, Im completely ashamed of myself. But hes avoiding me. He wont talk to me. He wont look at me. Hes heartbroken. And then there is this guy. Who stood his ground. So I think, good for him.

Answer #15

Sure… Probobly scared her a bit, maybe enough so she wont do it again. I mean why would she put something about her perents, nobobdy cares about that, and if she does have a problem, straight up she can go talk to them, instead of putting it all online like it’s cute. Yet again, thats just my opinion.

Answer #16

I think it’s your parents place to teach you better morals than that. If every parent treated their teenagers the way they treated them, the world would be a f*cked up place. Many teenagers are going to rebel, and I think this is a bad way to deal with it.

Answer #17

How else, do you suggest? Sit down and talk to them? Cause that doesnt work.

Answer #18

Yeah, humiliating them and ruining their self esteem is a great way to go about it. Builds character, you know?

Answer #19

Yeah, humiliating them and ruining their self esteem is a great way to go about it. Builds character, you know?

Answer #20

I’m not saying that parents should take their kids laptop and shoot it every time they’re bad. I’m saying they need to step it up when it comes to discipline. By the way, this video wasn’t meant for the entire world to rave about it. I was on the dad’s Facebook earlier and him and the daughter are fine.

Answer #21

*and I meant that the video the dad made was meant for the daughter’s friends and parents who saw what she posted.

Answer #22

Exactly ^

Answer #23

Thanks!

Answer #24

I support his decision

Answer #25

I do see your point. And to some extent I agree when a paretn stoops down to their kids level. But he did have a heart to heart talk to her once. He said it made him mad and she wasn’t to do it again. She disobeyed him in that manner, so he had the right to be angry…. especially after all he did. One thing I do agree with the dad is that she needs to get a job. Kids now a days think that it is their right to have a computer, cellphone, etc. She needed to be taught a lesson. Embarrasment sometimes works to get your point across….. but I don’t think this will be healthy for their relationship…. not in the least

Answer #26
Answer #27

with a gun? if so i sure she is rather timid at the moment

Answer #28

Yes, with a gun o.o

Answer #29

^^nine times :O

Answer #30

“Treat people how you wanna be treated. “ is immature?? hello??? u there? u serious? is it immature to be good with people? and treat them the way you want to be treated? why do people hate treating other in a good way??! -.-

Answer #31

with a gun? :D> or even a SHOT GUN ? :D> AWESOME DAD :D> hehe xD>

Answer #32

i agree ^

Answer #33

i dont think she should of post stuff like that but the dad didnt have to shoot her laptop he could of kept it for himself and just really embarrassed her.

Answer #34

i don’t think that’s what she meant.

Answer #35

The goal of child rearing is to raise good kids. Kids who only behave because of fear of consequences are only good when they fear getting caught. In a few years his daughter will be an adult and won’t be under dad’s discipline. At this point her behavior will mainly be determined by her empathy and conscience. Severe punishments are counterproductive in developing ethical behavior. If the daughter saw that her words hurt people she cared about upon reflection she might regret saying them. Having her laptop destroyed and being embarrassed publicly frees her of responsibility. Since the punishment is already disproportionate to her crime she goes from being the aggressor to being the victim. This psychologically frees her of having to feel guilt for her actions. In stead of feeling bad about what she did her dad’s actions reinforced the premise of her posting that her dad is unreasonable.

Answer #36

I think he’s awesome lol. My dad would do the same thing if I were to talk crap about him or my mom on the Internet. Kids are too disrespectful these days and their parents don’t even care. I applaud this man for stepping up.

Answer #37

Yes I am here thanks. And yes Im serious. Quite simply all I was saying is that she was disrespectful and rude, and she got treated the same way back. And just to let you know your answer was quite confusing, there is this thing you may have heard of called grammar.

Answer #38

As for she might feel guilty if she knew they would hurt someone. She got in trouble once because of her stunt. She obviously didnt feel that guilty. Or else she is just that stupid. Anyways, What would you have done? She’s publically insulted you twice on Facebook. Apparently talking doesn’t work.

Answer #39

Ikr? Same here…

Answer #40

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Answer #41

Uhh….?

Answer #42

it is absolutely natural.

Answer #43

I thought it was pretty amazing. But I would never show my father that. :O

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