How to explain my decision to Christian parents... Help please!

I am a 15 year old woman, brought up in a Christian family who, after a lot of prayer and research wants to convert to Islam. Although I am worried about telling my parents this, my true concern is that I wish to follow Allah’s comands and cover myself. I am afraid to tell them that I want to wear hijab and I do not know how they will react. Any ideas on how to tell them would be greatly apreciated. Thank you.

Answer #1

Can you engage in a discussion in a way that doesn’t involve quoting random bible passages? If I wanted to hear random snippets of old books, I’d have a conversation with an encyclopedia.

Answer #2

Let us examine the Biblical Truth of remaining separate from the false religions which Satan has always perpetrated upon mankind.

  1. God told the Israelites that they were to remain a people separated from the false religions of the peoples which surrounded them in their new Promised Land.

a) Deuteronomy 7:6 – “For you are a holy and set-apart people to the Lord; the Lord your God has chosen you to be a special people to Himself out of all the peoples of the earth.” [Parallel Bible, KJV/Amplified Bible Commentary]

b) Deuteronomy 18:9 – “When you come into the land which the Lord your God gives you, you shall not learn to follow the abominable practices of these nations.” God then lists the religious practices of witchcraft, divining the future, being a medium, a sorcerer, a necromancer, or wizard.

c) Joshua 24:14-16 – “Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. And the people answered and said, God forbid that we should forsake the LORD, to serve other gods”

d) Revelation 18:4-5 – “And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her [the evil, false system], my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. For her sins have reached unto heaven, and God hath remembered her iniquities.”

This emphasis on separating yourself from false religions so you can wholeheartedly serve the One True God is called, “ Sanctification”. Since this term is likely unfamiliar with most people, we will spend a few moments explaining it. “ SANCTIFICATION – The process of being made holy resulting in a changed life-style for the believer … In the Greek New Testament, the root hag- is the basis of hagiasmos, “holiness,” “consecration,” “sanctification”; hagiosyne, “holiness”; hagiotes, “holiness”; hagiazo “to sanctify,” “consecrate,” “treat as holy,” “purify”; and hagios, “holy,” “saint.” The root idea of the Greek stem is to stand in awe of something or someone … Thus, God is separate; things and people dedicated to Him and to His use are separate. The moral implications of this word came into focus with the prophets and became a major emphasis in the New Testament. See Holy.” [Holman Bible Dictionary]

Answer #3

Clearly, you haven’t done enough research, allow me to enlighten you: Muslim law (Sharia law) allows for the whipping and beating of women…it’s illegal under international treaty, but still preached by many imams.

No, it doesn’t. Many muslim DO NOT promote violence towards women, some do, but then again, some Christians and other religions also beat their wives.

Recently, a priest from a foreign country was invited to give a talk on Islam here and they talked about how it was OK to marry young girls (eg, 14) to old men (say, 50) becuase it’s OK under Sharia / Islamic law.

So you’re going to judge the WHOLE religion based on what one guy said?

Aside from a few countries…most that are predominantly muslim have very poor respect for equal rights, are chauvinistic, degrading towards women and incredibly sexist.

WRONG once again, some are, some however have great respect for women.

If you believe that the prophet of God was Mohammed, all well good…but, you don’t need to convert to Islam to recognize a truth…and sign up for beatings from your future husband.

Once again you are proving your ignorance.

Have you already started learning arabic, btw? Becuase to read the holy Quran, you HAVE to read Arabic. If you read ANY translation, people will yell at you if you complain, b/c they will say the translation tainted the meaning (nope, it didn’t, b/c there are multiple translations and explanations available.)

WRONG, WRONG and WRONG once again.

Answer #4

Clearly, you haven’t done enough research, allow me to enlighten you: Muslim law (Sharia law) allows for the whipping and beating of women…it’s illegal under international treaty, but still preached by many imams.

Recently, a priest from a foreign country was invited to give a talk on Islam here and they talked about how it was OK to marry young girls (eg, 14) to old men (say, 50) becuase it’s OK under Sharia / Islamic law.

Aside from a few countries…most that are predominantly muslim have very poor respect for equal rights, are chauvinistic, degrading towards women and incredibly sexist.

If you believe that the prophet of God was Mohammed, all well & good…but, you don’t need to convert to Islam to recognize a “truth”…and sign up for beatings from your future husband.

Have you already started learning arabic, btw? Becuase to read the holy Quran, you HAVE to read Arabic. If you read ANY translation, people will yell at you if you complain, b/c they will say the translation tainted the meaning (nope, it didn’t, b/c there are multiple translations and explanations available.)

Last…if you really want to convert, you should be fasting this month (Ramadan) not drinking any water, etc, otherwise, you’re sinning.

Answer #5

Please think twice before converting to this satanic religion.

JIHAD: THE SIXTH DEADLY PILLAR OF ISLAM!

When Muslims read this, they will disagree, antagonistically reminding us that there are five pillars of Islam but they are not telling the truth. Many Americans are familiar with the Five Pillars; however, no one is talking about the Sixth Pillar of Islam because of political correctness. You have only read about it here!

The Sixth Pillar of Islam is Jihad or holy fighting and this is an obligation for every Muslim on earth! No exceptions. The politicians, pundits, preachers, and professors who deny this are all wrong. Islam is a dangerous, deceptive, and deadly religion. I can easily prove it and eagerly wait rebuttals from anyone.

http://www.cuttingedge.org/news/n1243.cfm

You will be in my prayers and may god show you the way.

Answer #6

Clearly, you haven’t done enough research, allow me to enlighten you: Muslim law (Sharia law) allows for the whipping and beating of women…it’s illegal under international treaty, but still preached by many imams. Violence of any kind towards women is not allowed in Islam. Muslim women were the first to get rights and are protected by men, not controlled by them. God instructs men to be kind to their wives.

The messenger of God said “the most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best manner and kinder to his wife”

To answer your question, you may face many difficulties with your parents at the beginning. Here’s some advice: · Before you talk to your parents, Ask Allah for his help, open up your heart to him, explain all your deepest fears and aspiration. Be sincere in your duaa (invocation) and have faith that Allah will help overcome these problems. · Avoid telling them altogether. · Remain calm when talking to them and don’t let their reaction make you panic. · Make sure they understand that you have not forced by anyone and that it was your own choice. · Increase your excellence toward them and increase your service to them without expecting anything in return. · You must have patience with them. · Educate them on the fundamental beauty of Islamic faith (give them books about Islam).

I hope this helps.

Answer #7

There is no age of consent for believing what you want - nobody, including your parents, has a right to dictate your beliefs to you. yeah that’s right…no one can “change” your mind… but since your in your parents care its best you just go along with it…out of respect

Answer #8

What strikes me first is the fact that you said that you were a15 yr old woman your not eighteen you haven’t even reached the age of consent…

There is no age of consent for believing what you want - nobody, including your parents, has a right to dictate your beliefs to you.

Answer #9

Romans 8:16 tells us: “The Spirit Himself [thus] testifies together with our own spirit, [assuring us] that we are children of God.” First and foremost, we have the unshakable testimony from within us! The indwelling Holy Spirit of God constantly reassures us that we belong to Jesus Christ.

Answer #10

“Ye shall keep my statutes. Thou shalt not let thy cattle gender with a diverse kind: thou shalt not sow thy field with mingled seed: neither shall a garment mingled of linen and woollen come upon thee. – Leviticus 19:19”

Oh, sorry, I thought we were quoting random parts of the bible - or were you trying to make a point of some sort?

Answer #11

thats the best argument you can give arachid?

Well, yes. You’re telling somoene to behave based on a bit of the old testament that you yourself explicitly point out was an instruction to Israelites.

Answer #12

thats the best argument you can give arachid?

Matthew 18:6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

Answer #13

God told the Israelites that they were to remain a people separated from the false religions of the peoples which surrounded them in their new Promised Land.

All of which might actually mean something if she was an Israelite…

Answer #14

1 Timothy 4:1 But the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons.

Answer #15

What strikes me first is the fact that you said that you were a15 yr old “woman” your not eighteen you haven’t even reached the age of consent… yeah…tell your parents about your decision…but if they don’t agree don’t think you have a right in that situation…you are a CHILD… you live in YOUR PARENT’S HOUSE …THEY take care of YOU… don’t mean to be harsh but…I can’t understand why you would choose Islam over Christianity…EXPLAIN please My thoughts are that those three years of experience that you are lacking does help you to be a more mature person

Answer #16

The Word of God teaches that the Bible is incomprehensible to the “natural man”-the unsaved individual. It is a spiritual book and the unsaved person is not only spiritually blind, but 1 Corinthians 2:14 tells us that he “is incapable” of knowing that which is spiritually discerned. Do you understand the Bible? Does it make sense to you and speak to your heart? Does it convict you of your sin and teach you the right way?

Answer #17

The Word of God teaches that the Bible is incomprehensible to the natural man-the unsaved individual. It is a spiritual book and the unsaved person is not only spiritually blind, but 1 Corinthians 2:14 tells us that he is incapable of knowing that which is spiritually discerned.

Total, unmitigated nonsense. Either you can justify something logically as empirically true, or you can’t - what you believe has no impact on how the universe works. You can’t simply disqualify from debate anyone who doesn’t agree with you on the basis that “you can’t understand”.

The only sense in which your statement is true is that the bible only makes sense when you’re prepared to ignore all its inconsistencies and errors because you already believe.

Answer #18

A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue (Pr. 11:12).

Answer #19

Translation: No.

Answer #20

Hide all sharp objects in the room, wear 2-3 layers of clothing, keep 1st-aid kit nearby. Go in… tell them!

Btw, seriously speaking, you must know your parents. If you think they can take it, tell them straight. If not then spend few weeks telling them of the good things about islam, tell them when you think they are ready and are probably anticipating this already.

Answer #21

I’m honestly curious how anyone can convert between religions. Presumably deconverting from your old religion requires realizing that it was bunk - but somehow failing to apply the same level of critical thinking to your new religion just astounds me.

Answer #22

I’m a sunni muslim. just go for it. islam is the right religion to follow. &&& the hijab is beautiful. =)

Answer #23

I told my parents I was agnostic after being a devout catholic for 13 years. its really just easiest to just spit it out, honestly. sorry I can’t be of more help. good luck!

Answer #24

Well, it is your decisions, your parents can’ll tell you what to believe, you are old enough to make up your own mind. Just let your parents know that you feel strongly about this, and it is what you want to do and that it is your condition… and that you don’t want them to feel dissappointed or unaccepting because its what you want, and that if they love you that they should respect that.

Hope this helps.

Answer #25

My advice is to go for it. Although I myself am a christian, I belive in people making their own choices about religion. That’s kinda why there’s freewill. The only reason why your parents might force christianity on you is because they are scared of what might happen to you (the whole hell thing can make people do stuff like that).

Just tell them that you no longer want to be a christian, but break it to them gently. Also remind them that they are christians, and they have no right to force it upon you.

Answer #26

Oh, I think they will take it beautifully. I think you should just walk in wearing hijab and that will pretty much open the door for further calm discussion…

Hey, your parents are going to freak. They are christians and will have a hard time with your conversion from ‘their’ religion. good luck to you.

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