How do I know if I can trust my 15 year old daughter?

I work graveyard shift, but one night I had came home for lunch and I did not see my daughter in her bed so I started looking all throughout the house for her and by the time I went back into her room she was climbing thru the window.wow I was more disappointed than angry.

Answer #1

I am only 14, when I first snuck out (of course I got caught) my mom wouldn’t even make eye contact with mee. I tried telling her I was sorry, but she just sat there looking at the ground crying. Now if your daughter has a heart, that will make her feel horrible. I know I felt horrible. Sometimes saying nothing at all says everything. I haven’t snuck out since. I wish you luck.

Answer #2

lol, I think it is a teenage thing like said before.. and try not to be harsh..and definately dont say ‘my house my rules’ or even worse ‘under my roof’ that can really strip a child of his/her independence and they will feel trapped which can cause them to rebel to prove to themselves that their free and then from there punishment just feeds their rebellious attitude.. but none of this is 100%.. it varies greatly on your relationship with your daughter, household rules already in place(what has been spoken and what has been assumed).. and much more…

Answer #3

You guys should have that mother to daughter talk.just tell her what you will not accept..she’s living under your roof so she should go by your rules.And im pretty sure she knows better than to be sneaking out of a window.She should know once the trust is gone its gonna be kinda of hard believing that person,even if they are telling the truth.

hope I’ve helped :)

Answer #4

I see this all the time in american films…

we cant do it cus we got noting to climb down lol

its a teenage thing, I think they all do it :S

are you asking how to trust her in general or for a spesific purpose?

Answer #5

ummm looks like you cant trust her…You need to talk to her and see why she needs to SNEAK out and cnt just ask your permission to do whatever shes up to…And if she continues the she needs some disaplined or a bbysitter

Answer #6

Yeah Im 14 And Sneak Out All Then Time. Im Not Saying Im Right But Have You Given Her Too Many Bounderies? I Dont Get On With My Mum So Do What I Want When I Want And No1 Tells Me Otherwise Try Bonding With Her Before You Have A Lost Relationship Like Me And My Mum!! Good Luck!

Answer #7

I’m a dude but it apply for all teens. Don’t pressure your kid like someone said earlier. I’m 16 and when my mom says that it’s her house it just makes me all the more angry. That’s usually when I sneak out. Just be gentle and lovin with it. Be tough enough to make a point but not to soft to where she doesn’t care what your sayin. Look at her behavier. Is it hostile when you ask her where she goes or does she kindly admit where she has gone. If it’s hostile it most likely was a place she knows not to go to even if you were home

Answer #8

Ask her why she was doing it.If it was just for no good reason.Then tell her”Now I can’t trust you anymore.”That is the WORST punishment ever!!!to me it is.It will give her SO much guilt and she will reget that she ever did it.If it was for a good reason,then watch her behavior.Ask her if friends were waiting for her at a place or something.Good Luck!If it was for a good or bad reason,tell her”I am SO dissapointed in you.”My ‘rents say that to me when they are more dissapointed thsn mad.It makes me so remorse!!!(Feel bad)

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