I don't think any type of smacking should be allowed

Like I stated places like Sweden have banned any type of corporal punishment…they have a very low crime rate with juveniles as well as the lowest domestic abuse rates. At one time men were allowed to hit their women if they wouldn’t comply to their wishes. Times change and we must change with them. It is not a coincidence that bullying among children is directly related to being spanked at home. These are just the facts…so don’t shoot the messenger. I have worked in this field for a very long time and see many families who do not lay a hand on their children but learn to communicate their frustrations in other ways. I am one of those parents who has never had to lay a hand on my child. When like all children attempt to run out in traffic I was as should be close enough to him to pull him back, get down to his level look him in the eye and say…you must not do that, it is very dangerous and just the tone and the look was enough to get the message across. This way you do not send a message that the child is bad but he did something that was dangerous. Sue…good luck

Sorry but I have to disagree. I don’t believe that spanking just because is a good reason but I agree with butterflydreamsdragonflywings that there are times that it is appropriate for a spanking. More appropriate if something like timeouts or taking away priveledges don’t work. I believe that some kids learn from this. Not all but some. I spank my kids when I have told them 5 times not to do something and they still openly defy me and I can threaten them all I want and it doesn’t work. I tried time outs and that only works for one of them. So I do get why parents spank kids.

I hate new TV shows where they won’t spank the kids even though they have tried everything else. They say it is abuse. Sorry but a single spank on the bum is not abuse. I think parents who don’t discipline their children are the abusers because they are letting their children grow up to be horrible people.

Everyone has their own oppions Sue90. I have very good parenting skills so dont accuse people of not having them because they spank. It is cocky social workers like you who make everyone hate them! Spare the rod spoil the child!

I feel that spanking is okay as long as it is not overdone. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve had to spank my son, all of them involved him almost hurting himself before hand. It’s instinct. Besides, until 15-20 years ago, NO ONE had a problem with it because it just wasn’t talked about.

I don’t know about this one. My mother would slap me when I was younger and honestly all that did was make me scared of her. My dad never smacked me and I’d listen to him more. But I guess there are kids that don’t respond to anything else…

haha whatever thats why kids are out of controll cause all these laws. I remeber the most funny thing. I was a little brat when I was 15 and called my mom the b word and she slapped me so hard. anyways I called the cops and they came and I told them the story and to my suprise the cop said if you were my kid I would of crammed your teeth down your throwt lol. I am 21 now and I laugh about that all the time with my mom. I so desreved it. well I never called he a name again : p

Sue90, how many kids do you have? Has one of them ever run out into the street? I guarantee, that 9 out of 10 parents would do one of three things in that instance, spank, scream and panic, or put their child in the longest time out known to man.

I have very good parenting skills thank you very much, and I don’t appreciate others insinuating that I don’t because I used a method proven to work since before our Lord was a child!

I will admit I don’t like slapping, but a spanking on the bottom, through clothing and usually a diaper as well is effective, and because it’s used so rarely it is very effective. We do not all go to extremes. I just felt you should know that before you put out a blanket statement like that.

Hahaha… All I have to say to you is good luck! I tell my child once to do something and the I count to 5. If she decides to ignore me than she gets a swat on the behind. She is 4 so I dont spank her but I will pop that bottom. Once she gets older I see no problem with spanking if she deserves it. I wont beat my child but she will mind me. I am so sick of hearing people say you better watch who you spank your child in front of because next thing you know you will have the state out checking you out for child abuse. I will be darned if someone is going to tell me how to discipline my child. I gave birth to them and I love them. I only do what is right and will make them respectful and good kids. Call that abuse if you want but my kids will be respectful and well behaved when they are older.

Dear candy2008, In some places like Sweden spanking or any contact when angry is forbidden. They also have the least crime rate and less domestic abuse then most areas. Here in Canada and the States we are allowed to slap a child only on the behind and you must never slap hard enough to leave a mark…if you do you, by law are abusing your child. As a family worker we frown on even the slapping…what this does is present the parent as a bully…someone bigger and stronger trying to get someone to do something. Children are a blank slate when they are born. It is the adults who teaches the child coping skills and how to react to disappointment. I have never seen a spanking help or you would only have to do it once…people who spank have a lack of coping and parenting skills. Sue…good luck

Spanking just for the sake of spanking…no. There are times though when you need to spank a child. It is the only way to get their attention. If a child is going to hurt themselves or somebody else, I believe it is appropriate. It does not mean hitting them so hard it leaves a mark, or more then one spank. I have 3 children. One whom I have had to spank about 3 times in his life he is 23. Two that have yet to have one. One of those two is 17.

well evry1 is talking about spanking she said smaking and yes I do think its rong. you shud never put your hands in a childs place and in my opinion it makes them worse when you do stuff like that. I have a few guy friends that I hang out with whos mothers used to spank them and they always talk about how if she were a man or if they were a girl they wud woop her azz. and the kids that get spanked a lot usually grow up to hate their parents.

theres NOTHING wrong with spanking your chid…candy2008 you’re on CRACK

I was smacked loads of times xD I think its good because kids turn out much worse when the parents dont punish them in any way… right?