What if girls don't like me and I don't want to change?

I know this might suck but no matter what anyone wears theres always going to be someone putting you down. If this is the style you like and you think it represents you.. tehn why not? I mean if girls arent dating you becasue of your clothes then are they really worth dating? I mean you would probably be wasting your time. The right girl will come and when she does she will see through the clothes even if she doenst liek it.. or she might love it! you never know! just think positive and dont let anyone put you down for being yourself.

well find a girlfriend that likes u the way u are

It has taken me some time to think about your question and how I can answer it to hopefully best help you.

Your style fits your personality. You like rap music and you like the clothes. You DO NOT have be black to like a certain style of music. If that were the case, then only red necks should like country music, only punks should like rock, etc. Society SHOULD accept you for who you are and what you can offer, not what you look like or how you dress. Sometimes people, especially parents, want to protect kids so bad we forget to let you BE kids. It is not always a fair world. The reality is, even though we know how it should be, it isn’t always so. I am a parent and I am quick to tell my son, “It’s just a phase” or “You are not leaving my house looking like that.”. I am not intentionally trying to keep him from expressing himself, I just know what a cruel world it can be sometimes. So you have to decide, are you willing to take the remarks, the name-calling, etc. you will get because you choose to be yourself instead of conforming to the “norm”? You said you didn’t mind the name-calling. So maybe you are prepared for what is to come your way. I hope so. Always be true to yourself.

As for the girls, well, be patient. I know you don’t want to hear that, but there are girls who appreciate a man who is true to himself and look past the clothes to find out who the guy is behind the outfit. Someone is always going to tell you no, but then there will be that one that will say yes. It takes us a women a little bit longer to get past the superficial stuff. But some of us do get there. Tell girls this is who you are and you wouldn’t want to be with a girl who doesn’t respect you for being who you are anyway. Some people want to express themselves, but are too scared of what people will say. Us girls are like that bad! Especially high school girls. It is only because we are so damn mean to each other. I admire you.

Society has set unspoken rules. You have to dress this way, eat this way, look this way, act this way, etc. There are people who say, “Screw that, I want to be ME”. Can you imagine what gay people still have to go through when they choose to be openly gay? And all you want to do is wear what you want and listen the music you like. The best thing you can do it NOT CHANGE who you are for anyone. The girls will soon come when they realize you are not fake. When someone is confident and respects themselves, it shows. It is a very sexy quality in a man. You don’t have to be rude, just be assertive and mean what you say. Never lie and never follow. There may be a girl that is already wishing she had the nerve to talk to you. She may find you. In the meantime, be respectful to your parents and friends and let them know you expect the same. Here is a cheesy one, but it works, treat others how you want them to treat you. The next time someone tells you they like a song that is totally “stupid”, don’t be so quick to give them a hard time, say, “Cool”.

Just be yourself. There are people who have matured enough to know you can’t always judge a book by its cover.

ok, JUstin, I live in a town with like 99% white people. almost EVERYONE dresses a little like that. they aren’t like total gansta, but you get the point. girls like them, I don’t know, maybe cause most guys where you live dont dress that my. I think that yur ‘rents are kinda racist. dont take it the wrong way, but it seems like that cause they think that only black people where clothes like that. ANYONE who lives in an urban or city area, dresses that way, especially in like New york (there are many different styles there).

I think that if you dont want 2 change, you shud try 2 tone it down a little. dont dress like 50 Cent forexample, but not like Carlton from Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, either. find yur happy medium whike still maintaining yur individual style.some girls are threatened by your appearance. girls want guys who they can bring home and show to their dads without having him chase them down the street. they also want guys who can be sweet, gentlemanly and romantic. try 2 show them that side of u (if you have it, no offense).

hope I helped, good luck!

Hey Justin.

If I were to give you some useful advice, it would be this:

I understand you have your own style, but you must realize that we live in a world that is surrounded by judgment. You shouldn’t wear clothes that don’t suit you, if you expect to be respected and understood. Most girls like a guy who is mature, down to earth, loving, and in the beginning - hard to get. We like the chase just as much as guy’s do. But if you make it too easy, girls will walk away or think only of you as a friend. Think intelligently instead of egotistically. But don’t forget to be yourself.

I dont agree with lady I think you can wear what ever you want heyy maybe ull start a new fashion trend around your school … the girlfreind thing will fall into place in time, dont rush it your still young and have plenty of time to do that kind of stuff… and as for your parents you should sit them down and tell them how you really feel about your style in a calm matter… dare to be different and dontlet people push you around because you look different… hope I helped and tell me how it goes

How was rap/r&b introduced to you? My feelings are the people are so mainstreamed and fear any change that they go along with their parents without question. I grew up in a small town and everyone including myself had the same view on “posers.” Well, I’ve been in the AF for about 2 years now and traveled enough to see a blend of culture and a variety of different personalities and people. If it feels right to you, don’t ever stop.

PS I still dont have a girlfriend, 19yrs old. No rush.

its you’re style and as long as you’re happy with it then thats all that matters and they should learn to out up with it and not judge you for what you wear.