How can I stop just hating my life?

Right now, I really do hate my life. I understand that many people have it much, much worse, but everything that is happening right now is a shock for me. My parents have hated each other for a while, and they are only staying together for us. (my brother and I) They get in giant fights everyday, and my mom comes crying to me asking me about what to do. She wants to go back home to Poland, but she doesn’t want to leave me alone since my dad is always working…She can’t stay in America because she won’t be able to get a job. English isn’t her first language, and I don’t even think that she went to college. If she could stay in America, I would be fine with them divorcing, because I don’t want her to suffer anymore…but no, if she goes I probably won’t see her that often. I’d also be alone at home for well, all of the time. My dad is constantly working or out with friends doing business, and my brother is off with his friends too. I even saw my mom looking at a dating site today, and it just tore me apart. And well, it’s just nice being able to see your mom every day. I really do take her for granted. Even simple things like her making lunch for me is great…and there would be no more home cooking if she left. I would be alone since I’m in a new school this year, and I can’t seem to make any really good friends. My brother and I have to drive an hour one way to school everyday, and when I come back home, it’s nice to see my mom, even though she is extremely depressed. (she is literally depressed, as in, she takes medication for it) Last year my brother got with the wrong crowd and starting doing drugs, and that really scared me. I don’t really have a good relationship with my dad either because he’s never really there, and I have two really good friends, and that’s about it. (my best friend lives in Florida though, and I don’t get to see him) You guys are probably just going to say that I should be more social to get some friends, but I try, I really do. I just can’t seem to “connect” with them. Anyways, thanks for reading this everyone…I just felt like I had to let it all go.

Answer #1

Have you guys tried counseling at all? Do you think you could suggest that to your parents? Since your dad is working all the time it seems as though there’s no family time which means there’s no communication going on. Try talking to your dad, let him know how you feel. Ask your brother to talk to him as well.

Answer #2

Talk to ur dad (i know he might not listen). Tell him what u think and he needs to do something. Ur mum could commit suicide. Mabey u should get ur mom to move back to poland and u could go with her if possible. It sound like a hard situation. I know what it is like not having freinds. It sound to me like ur dad is the reall problem. I don’t know much to say but try and talk to him. He might not love ur mother but he probably loves u so tell him how serious u are and how much u hate what hee is doing.

Answer #3

Hmmm…I posted this in the Parents and Family section, but it put it into the Love and Relationships category…

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